It kind of sucks. A while back, I wrote a post detailing how I love to be single. While that is still true, and I'm still not necessarily looking for anything serious for the time being, dating is really hard and this is why:
Everyone is looking for something casual.
I spent some time today reading a few different articles about dating. The main complaint is that everyone just wants to "hang out". The traditional date is so rare these days. I have been thinking about my most recent experiences with going out with new guys. Typically they pay for my meal or movie or whatever and we have a good time. But that's it. I hardly ever go out on a date where something was planned beyond a meal. When I do go out on a date where we do something besides eat food and watch a movie, it's with an older guy who has been dating much longer than the 21 year olds I've been going out with.
With that being said, I want to help you, men. I know that my following is mostly women, but I know there are a few men in the mix, and if you're still in the dating scene you could use this advice. These wise words have been brainstormed from experience. They are to be used particularly when you are first getting to know a person.
1// When you're having dinner, I don't care if you're at Denny's, place your napkin in your lap while you're eating. It's good manners.
2// Open the car door (this very rarely happens and when it does they get about 1000 extra points)
3// Pay. Seriously. Just do it. Yeah, it sucks that guys are expected to do that, but if it works out, I'm sure she'll buy your food down the road as well.
4// When you're having a conversation, don't interrupt to tell her something random that isn't relevant to the conversation. You would think that this is just common sense, but you would be surprised how often I can barely get a word in edgewise.
5// Don't talk about your ex.
6// Have a plan. Don't pick a girl up and ask her what she wants to do.
7// Put your phone away. It's forgivable if it rings or you have to check it, but don't play on it! Rude.
8// Don't post about it on social media right after. If it was good or bad or whatever. Some things don't need to be shouted from the rooftops (or facebook, or twitter, or whatever) If it continues and works out, maybe they'll make their way into your daily status here and there, but don't start out on that track!
9// Don't make things up. So many guys make up stories (and it is so obvious.) Chances are, we'll like the truth better.
And the most important one:
10// Do NOT expect sex. Just don't.
Being single, while it can be fun and exciting, can be a chore. I'm sure that I'm not the only one who has experienced a few very bad dates among those generally fun ones. What kind of dates have you been on! And Ladies, a lot of this advice goes for you too! I hope that what I had to say might help someone out on their next date.
Katie @ Chalk it up to Better Luck