Friday, January 24, 2014

Despite The Fact That...

Way back in the day ( like two years ago) I wrote about something a friend of mine said to me.  Because it was a real long time ago, I want to re-visit the topic. I think that it's something worth reading. 

When I was in high school, a couple of friends and I were up late chatting at one of our houses. We were talking about boys of course, and she brought up the use of the phrase "despite the fact".  Ever since that day, I have avoided using it in all situations because of what we talked about. 

When you say, "Well, I really like him, despite the fact that..." or something stupid like that, you're basically saying that you like all the other qualities,, you could do without him being this way or that way. Or the same could be said about some character traits or whatever. 

What my friend was getting at, was that you should love someone or like someone for every single piece of them. Including their flaws.  Because their flaws are a part of makes them who they are.  I know that I never want to be with someone who has to say "I love her despite the fact that her teeth aren't white" or "despite the fact that she can't go 30 minutes without being sarcastic. It's just a part of who I am.  Take it or leave it. Don't love me despite it..


Ashley said...

I've never said "despite the fact" before but somehow I really needed to read this today. Thanks.

Tammy Jo said...

Spot on!!! I know that I am weeks behind, but I needed to see this post today. Funny how that works!

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